andromeda

Trust is both and emotional and logical act. Emotionally, it is where you expose your vulnerabilities to people, but believing they will not take advantage of your openness. Logically, it is where you have assessed the probabilities of gain and loss, calculating expected utility based on hard performance data, and concluded that the person in question will behave in a predictable manner. In practice, trust is a bit of both. I trust you because I have experienced your trustworthiness and because I have faith in human nature.

We feel trust. Emotions associated with trust include companionship, friendship, love, agreement, relaxation, comfort.

There are a number of different ways we can define trust. Here are the dimensions of trust and consequent definitions.
Predictability

It is a normal part of the human condition to be constantly forecasting ahead. We build internal models of the world based both on our experiences and what others tell us, and then use these to guess what will happen next. This allows us to spot and prepare for threats and also make plans to achieve our longer-term goals.

The greatest unpredictability is at 50%; a reliable enemy can be preferable to an unpredictable friend, as at least we know where we are with them.

Definition 1: Trust means being able to predict what other people will do and what situations will occur. If we can surround ourselves with people we trust, then we can create a safe present and an even better future.

Value exchange

Most of what we do with other people is based around exchange, which is the basis for all businesses as well as simple relationships. At its simplest, it is exchange of goods. I will swap you two sheep for one cow. It is easy to calculate the value in such material bargaining. Things get more complex when less tangible forces come into play. A parent exchanges attention for love. A company exchanges not only pay but good working conditions for the intellectual and manual efforts of its workforce.

Value exchange works because we each value things differently. If I have a whole flock of sheep but no milk, then I can do business with a person who has a herd of cows but no clothes. This principle of reciprocity is what binds societies together.

Trust in value exchange occurs when we do not know fully whether what we are receiving is what we expect. When we buy a car, don’t want to be sold a ringer which the seller knows is faulty. When I get advice in business, I want it to be based on facts, not wild opinions.

Definition 2: Trust means making an exchange with someone when you do not have full knowledge about them, their intent and the things they are offering to you.

Delayed reciprocity

Exchange is not just about an immediate swapping of cows and sheep or hugs and kisses. What makes companies and societies really work is that something is given now, but the return is paid back some time in the future. The advantage of this is that we can create a more flexible environment, where you can get what you need when you need it, rather than having to save up for it.

Trust now becomes particularly important, because otherwise we are giving something for nothing. The delay we have placed in the reciprocal arrangement adds a high level of uncertainty which we need to mitigate through trust.

What is often called the ‘golden rule’ is a simple formula for creating trust. ‘Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.’ It sets up the dynamic for my giving you something now with the hope of getting back some unspecified thing in the indeterminate future.

Definition 3: Trust means giving something now with an expectation that it will be repaid, possibly in some unspecified way at some unspecified time in the future.

Exposed vulnerabilities

When we trust other people, we may not only be giving them something in hope of getting something else back in the future, we may also be exposing ourselves in a way that they can take advantage of our vulnerabilities. If I buy a car from you and I do not know a good price, you can lie to me so you get a better bargain. If I tell you in confidence about the problems I am having with work, you could use this to further your own career at my expense.

Although the threat of retribution or projected feelings of guilt can counteract your temptation to abuse my exposed vulnerabilities, if you succumb I still get hurt and may still end up with the shorter stick. For our transaction to complete successfully, I must be able to trust that such agonies will not come to pass.

Definition 4: Trust means enabling other people to take advantage of your vulnerabilities—but expecting that they will not do this.

Kamis, 31 DESEMBER 2009..


yah, ini adalah penghujung taun 2009.. dan bnyak terjadi kesialan" pada hari ini, tapi ada beberapa yg menyenangkan juga sih.. hehe..
pagi hari setelah mandi makan dll, langsung buka laptop, connect internet, buka fb, plurk, blog, twitter, dan yg trakhir email! dan jreng jreng gue dpet balesan e-mail dari pak Yaya, dosen matdas gue.. dan coba tebak apa isi na?? isi na tugas matdas!! huah, benar" kado istimewa di akhir tahun... berhubung malam taun baru ga bleh keluar ky na gue bkal ngerjain pas malam tahun baru.. huhu..
abis itu gue kena omelan mama gara" gue BOROS !! Okeh mam, anakmu ini akan berusaha buat ga boros.. *semoga taun 2010 gue bisa hemat, amin*
abis dmarahin, badmood lah gue.. huft, play mp3 in my laptop, trus gue coba buat ngerjain tugas matdas lebih awal dri rencana.. mikir nyanyi nulis mikir nyanyi nulis mikir nyanyi nulis.. dan akhir na selesai juga!! *cuma sisa 1 nmr sih* hehe.. yeah, tugas matdas da bkin gue lupa hal" yg da bkin gue bete.. horay horay!!
setelah itu gue berencana jalan ma adik gue *yg lain lagi pada sibuk sendiri* dan gue putusin buat makan pizza sebagai menu makan siang *ceilah*.. adik gue ngebet bgd pengen makan pizza yg notabene ga terlalu gue suka, da gitu minta ditraktir pula.. ckckck.. padahal sbnar na gue lagi pengen banget makan steak.. huh.. -.-
da smpe ph, penuh bgd, tpi untung msih ada tmpat buat gue n' adik gue.. trus playan ksih menu, gue tanya ada menu delight na ga, eh trnyata ga ada, huah terpaksa harus keluar kocek lbih bnyak nih.. dan alhasil gue psen yg ukuran sedang *lupa nama pizza na*, n' watermelon float 2 *pdahal gue mau na avocado float, tpi ga ada, sial!!*
nyam nyam nyam, abis makan langsung capcus ke mall.. masuk mall langsung ke 21,, trus di 21 qta brdebat, adik gue pngen nonton, dan dri 3 film, yg blum dtonton cma suster keramas,, gue trang za ga mau, gue lgi ga pngen nnton horor, bsa parno di kosan nanti na.. tpi akhir na gue terbujuk jga.. haha.. * ga pnya pendirian bgd ya gue* tap tap tap, qta jalan ke loket, ngomong ke teteh" pnjaga loket, trus adik gue dtanyain "masih sekolah? kelas brapa?" dan adik gue jwab jujur, "iya, kelas 9.." trus teteh na bilang ga bleh.. GUBRACK!! ni film ky na nyeleneh banget deh, smpe adik gue ga bleh nnton.. ckckck.. gue jdi pnasaran crita na gmna.. hihihi.. adik gue kecewa bgd, dia lgi pngen bgd nonton *ni anak bnyak bgd pngen na*
spanjang jalan dia cemberut za. BT gue liat na.. huh.. trus gue ke gramedia, waktu na beli komik!! yeah!! gue mlai brfikir apa kali ini gue bkal sial lgi gra" ga ada komik yg gue cari.. searching searching searching, dan akhir na nemu jga!! yeah!! kali ini gue ga sial!!
tap tap tap, gue mulai menjelajah mall lgi, gue liat" jam tangan, eh ada yg lucu, gue beli deh.. hehe.. trus gue liat gaun yg lucu, red! my fav color! and then gue tringat omelan mama, gue harus hemat! huah! hidup hemat!! yeah!!
brhubung blum terlalu sore gue ma adik gue memutuskan blum mau plang, kita ke salon, eh salon na penuh banged! bnyak yg prepare buat malam taun bru, ada yg di kriting, ada yg diwarnain, ada yg meni pedi, mcam" deh.. pdahal gue pngen potong plus masker rambut! terpaksa gue batalin deh, males gue nunggu na..
trus gue cari dvd, searching searching searching.. koq dvd yg gue cari ga ada ya? gue putusin buat nanya pelayan na, "teh, ada dvd ghosts of girlfriends past ga?".. si teteh mikir dulu trus da lama mikir dy nanya lgi judul na apa. gue bilang lgi "jdul na ghosts of girlfriends past!" ky na masih blum connect jga ni teteh, trus gue terjemahin satu" kata" itu in indonesian,, bla bla bla, dan masih belum connect juga!! ckckck.. alhasil gue keluarin hp, ketik ghosts of girlfriends past, gue tunjukin ke teteh na, dan akhir na dy ngonect juga!! alhamdulillah.. gue ma adik gue mulai berdebat smbil ketawa ketiwi, sbener na gue yg ngomong english na ga jelas atau dy na yg ga ngerti english sih?? ckckck.. si teteh mulai mencari-cari.. searching searching searching.. lama bgd, ga ketemu", dan si teteh berjalan ke bos na *ky na mah* minjem hp gue buat nunjukin judul na.. alhasil si bos turun tangan.. searching searching searching,, cepet bgt itu bos nyari na,, ky na da terlatih deh.. ga berapa lama akhir na ketemu juga ntu dvd.. yeah!!
trus gue nyari voucher smart yg 50, dan ga ada smua! huah, sial bgd gue.. terpaksa malam taun baru ga bisa ol di laptop.. dan ky na komputer gue juga bakal dipake kk buat main game online.. *klo ga salah judul na perfect world*
berhubung da mulai gelap, gue putusin buat pulang, dan qta kehujanan!! sesampai na di rmah, rumah bnar" gelap, sunyi, senyap, ga ada tnda" kehidupan *lebay bgd gue* ternyata orang rumah lgi pada pergi.. brhubung gue da cpek, gue suruh adik gue ngambil kunci di rmah tetangga *berasa ratu* haha.. nunggu nunggu nunggu.. lama bgd sih adik gue!! *udah nyuruh, ngomel pula, haha* dan stelah 28 menit nunggu akhir na dteng juga.. ternyata dy malah enak ngobrol trus ngisi pulsa dsna.. ckck..
malem na ada orang yg bkin gue bt abis, arghh, hate that!! dan buat ngilangin bt gue nonton spiderman 3 smbil ngerjain tgas.. *tpi bnyak nonton na dripada ngerjain tgas na, wkwkwk* then say happy new year! and happy birthday to my father!! trus lanjut nnton ghost rider.. dan akhir na gue ketiduran di kmar adik gue.. zzzzzzz